I waitressed on the weekends that the boys' dad was supposed to have them...I made really good money (sometimes more those nights than my weekly salary)
and when he stopped taking them, I paid a sitter...
it helped having that cash in my pocket
I am owed over $60,000 in back child support and over $20,000 and counting from my 2nd failed relationship
if I had that money....the things I could do...but I don't and wishing for it and being angry I don't have it only takes time away from other things that I would rather focus my energy on.
Cat or Kat (my memory is going ) mentioned making a vision of where you want to be
I think that is a wonderful idea and I know that I do it all the time...I do some of the crappy things I have to do because it is a means to an end, you know?
our landlords just told us their grown daughter is moving in to our house and we need to be out by May or June 1st. THe only places to rent are 2 bedroom apartments and with 4 kids that just isn't happening...we have both been through divorces that have destroyed our credit (along with some of our own stupid mistakes to be sure)and his ex calls the police for a child welfare visit at least every other week (last night I put coffee on for them...they know us by name)
we will survive because we always have because I have Faith that if I do everything in my power, God will finish what I can't...I have to do it though...I have to try everything, I can't give up or worry I will mess up or go into it thinking I will fail because that isn't giving it my all
you are in a triage state of mind even when the crisis is over
and I don't mean that harshly...I mean that in a concerned way...like you are tying yourself up in the triage part (which is understandable) and you are looking for zebras in horse pastures...don't get ahead of yourself which is much easier said than done
what about some crazy options like moving to where you could get a job more in your field? obviously not in the middle of the school year but what about during the summer? is there some restriction on that in your divorce decree?
what about selling the house back to your ex and cutting your losses instead of letting it drain you?
what about taking in a renter if you can't sell it?
what about asking for a scholarship for the choir program for your daughter?
I don't know if any of those things will work but it seems like you may be stuck worry about the same things so what if you got rid of those things?
) mentioned making a vision of where you want to be
