I am deeply upset by xW entangling my S's in her affairs, and coercing them to lie for her and accept her account of things. It's not that she and I have minor little quibbles that can be so easily set aside -- she purposely sets herself in diametrical opposition to whatever moral path I guide my S's along. The constant contradictions between my parenting versus her parenting have our S's thoroughly confused. And then she has started to bring the OM into the equation as counter to me in the fatherly role to these children, using OM as her trump card against my input to my S's.
Under those circumstance, I think I am supposed to get angry.
Instead what I am hearing is calls to "compromise, compromise". I should take it in stride and let it go, throw my children under the bus and save myself? None of you could really mean that, but that's the gist of what I'm hearing.
I understand that bitterness will be self-defeating to my cause. I also know there's really very little I can do about her actions, except as I have already done, which is to lodge a formal complaint with the PC. I have repeated the Serenity Prayer 'til it has become an automatic, knee-jerk mantra for me now.
I know the anger, righteous or not, needs to be kept in check or it will eat me alive. I can see the results of xW's anger in how she behaves. I've endured her angry belligerence for so long now that it is infecting me as well. I just want her to stop, to give us both peace, but she doesn't care -- she wants my total capitulation.
My patience and endurance is wearing thin. I try to give guidance and instruction to my S's during my week, only to discover that much of that foundation has been torn down by xW during her week. I feel like Sisyphus perpetually cursed to see that rock roll back down the hill again and again.
Perhaps I spend too much time here in these forums venting about this unrelenting source of aggravation. All I seem to do is illicit platitudes about serving my own self even at the expense of what I value most.
