Contemplating what life will be like with the kids around less.
two positive points to keep in mind. As your kids get older, their growing independence will require they have more time away from you as their social lives develop.
I've read it here many times in the threads, and in several excellent "divorce for kids" books. You can increase the QUALITY of the time you spend with your kids after the divorce.
Still, I understand your worry. I drive my kids to school each day, and tuck them in each night. With teens, those moments when they are the most tired is when they are the most likely to open up to you. I'll miss the day to day of it. However, some of these changes were coming anyway. D17 will start driving herself to school next year. D13 does NOT like to be tucked in, and is slowly pulling away from that one ritual as he needs his teenage boy space.
Rather than imagine what you are losing, focus on what you have and make the most of it, right?
Your a good man, GIMA!
M:42|W:40|D:17|S:13|Bomb:10/23/09 Awoken's Current Thread
I just hope it does GIMA some good. I KNOW for a fact the kids will have a blast.
OK. We started the night with 4 new american flags, and it only took D6 about an hour to snap the wooden handle for one of them. I laughed and did what any man would do...duct tape!! Lots of duct tape. D6 loved it.
The kids loved the noisemakers. I got a whole bag of them for like $3.00.
D6 was so into it, she even made noise during the commercials. We got her to take a break, but as soon as the lead in for the Olympics started and she saw mountains and snow, she cranked back up again.
Contemplating what life will be like with the kids around less.
two positive points to keep in mind. As your kids get older, their growing independence will require they have more time away from you as their social lives develop.
I've read it here many times in the threads, and in several excellent "divorce for kids" books. You can increase the QUALITY of the time you spend with your kids after the divorce.
Still, I understand your worry. I drive my kids to school each day, and tuck them in each night. With teens, those moments when they are the most tired is when they are the most likely to open up to you. I'll miss the day to day of it. However, some of these changes were coming anyway. D17 will start driving herself to school next year. D13 does NOT like to be tucked in, and is slowly pulling away from that one ritual as he needs his teenage boy space.
Rather than imagine what you are losing, focus on what you have and make the most of it, right?
Your a good man, GIMA!
Really good point Awoken. Thanks for helping me focus on what is good, not what I perceive I am losing.
Sounds like your trip this weekend was a good one.
Been crazy busy at work with a new case that is pretty big. And busy is good.
W has not responded to my discussion with her 8 days ago about telling me what she wants out of the D before we spend tons more on mediation. We (mt L and I) have heard NOTHING. When I talked to W 8 days ago, she said she would talk to her L and it sounded like she was open to taking a shot at resolving short of mediation. I know, don't believe anything they say and only half of what they do.
I was talking to a friend today and told him I have gone from limbo on the cheap to limbo with expense (L's involved).
I was talking to a friend today and told him I have gone from limbo on the cheap to limbo with expense (L's involved).
Yeah, but I found it to be a well-spent expense for a one-way ticket out of Limbo! As I posted on FB, I've come to realize that despite my religious education/upbringing, Limbo and Hell are actually the same!
Last Limbo hurdle: Selling the house. Feeding a White Elephant all by yourself can damn-near ruin one, financially.
"Damn-near!? "Who am I kidding?!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
