Life without her - R wise, might be better. With kids though...that is where the back and forth comes from. I began thinking she didn't want the M, then finding out she did I no longer did (had been repressing desire for D for 11yrs). But with 5 kids...I worry for them, worry she couldn't handle it, worry she'd do things that weren't in the kids best interest because of her fears/anger/spite. The last 3 words sum up my biggest problems finding love with her, added to cultural disconnects. Thanks though for the advice from your coach - I'll try yet another list, but this time about what I want now rather than the R. I'm trying not to talk the 'what ifs', but she manages to ask specific questions a lot (do you love me, etc.)
I'm just realizing that I'm on your thread~sorry...
One think I think I can relate to with your H is the fear of getting more bound into a M that seems doomed. It is SO good to hear that he is discovering that your M deserves a more open mind a lot more work.
