how do i keep my hope alive?

[trytryagain]

i've been following your thread, OTM...you're getting some helpful suggestions!

seems like you're struggling with whether or not you WANT to do it for yourself. there's a lot of back and forth on your thread. my coach told me recently that i needed to decided what it was i wanted out of my M, and then proceed full steam ahead with that plan. for instance, if my goal was to make my M work, i had to close off all exit doors in my mind and erase the "if we don't work things out" thoughts. but if my goal were to end my M, i'm sure her suggestion would be to pursue the necessary things to make that happen. if you want to make it work, make it work. if you don't, then...don't. but all the back and forth and yes no maybe i'm not sure takes a big toll on both you and your W. not to mention your children.

are you considering what your life would be like without her?