Sounds to me like he is taking "baby steps". One day at a time, one step at a time..keep your expectations to zero and don't push him AT ALL. He'll come along as he's ready...Like Snodderly was saying their time clock is slower than ours is.

This is a slow process once the 'breaking' down has begun; they will come forward and backward..and it takes alot of time for them to come through.

Continue to go on with your life "As If", all the while watching for many tiny changes(baby steps) that indicate he is continuing to come forward. I actually remember seeing that in my own husband..it's as if when they make a concession within themselves and talk about some of it then, it scares them to death, and they back off. One of the mistakes I made was when I was pushing him to face what he'd done; and he wasn't ready..not at that time. Too hard, too soon. I backed off quickly, but the damage at that time was done. I knew then, that I couldn't make him face anything until he was ready...and just took what I could get for quite awhile.

Right now would NOT be a good time to hold him accountable, that DOES come later on as he's stronger emotionally, and things are on firmer ground.

I think you're doing fine for now...and this has been a strong break through in his tunnel-life.

Hang tough, Sweetie, you've got to remember he's AFRAID and fear dominates what reasoning he has left in his mind.

Last edited by HeartsBlessing; 02/15/10 11:15 PM.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.