Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

Hi CityGirl. The legal side of this thing is awful. Everything you say or do can be used against you by the other side. So, it's hard to do anything 'good' under these circumstances.

Absolutely. Once her sttorney saw what was at stake (assets) he started 'churning' big time! Crap has happened that I never thought I'd see from her! And it continues. The legal system is hugely adversarial, and it absolutelY pits her against me and vice versa.

Yeah, it's awful. Can't even communicate at all without considering whether or not she'll try to use it against me.

It frightens me too. I don't like it at all. I've never been in trouble either. Now we've got lawyers, a judge, a GAL, and God knows who else will get involved. I had to make a list of witnesses too. I think my attorney is good (she has a reputation for being a fierce litigator), but damn...I didn't want any of this crap, and I doubt she did either...AT LEAST TO THIS DEGREE!

It is crazy. It's become a war of attrition!

I feel like I'm under a tremendous amount of pressure. Decisions are being made by strangers that's going to affect me adversely, and for the rest of my life.

I appreciate you sharing with me. It sucks. I don't know what the hell to do...I wish it'd just stop! It is a truly difficult position.