#2: WAH separated from us & I'm on the DBing path

[flowmom]

Flowmom, come on, you know that polyamorous whatever guy on FB was hinting at you doing something with them! Guys are so obvious LOL!

Really? I tend to be a bit clueless and wonder if I'm reading too much into things. I guess I will have to handle that situation with care...I want to keep them as friends.

Will dating someone draw him to you or push him away?

I really don't know. If I was dating, I wouldn't tell him though...that would be tacky. I haven't been treated like a woman in many years and I would love a boost. I am feeling pretty hopeless about my M right now. I'm really having trouble imagining H coming back, even gradually, except as an unrealistic fantasy.

And I think it would be bad form/cruel/rude to leave condoms out!

I agree! I would hide them. I wouldn't date or fool around as a DBing tactic...I would do it for me and privately.

Yeah about parenting q's--I think you say "that's gotta be tough! They know how much you love them and you are doing your best." And then to your kids, "well, he is your dad and he loves you and you need to listen to him!"

I like that.