Here's my story..midlife crisis/infidelity

[flowmom]

Definitely GAL...there's no down side to that. I think that hugging=pursuing in your sitch, so that's a no-no.

It sounds like you're indulging in mind-reading, and that gets us into trouble. If there's hope for your M, you'll probably have to be patient. He just moved out 11 days ago and a lot of his energy will be adjusting to a new home and the separation. However he feels right now isn't that relevant, because a lot of water will flow under the bridge in the next few months.