Talk about a blast from the past!! I remember you very well..and I'm so glad that you're doing well. Viki, when your husband left you did NOT fail; you forgot ONE thing....HIS power to make decisions...Free will is something we all have a tendency to forget, especially in the middle of this type of crisis. The decision to continue with his marriage or not was always up to HIM....just as that same decision rested with you.
You wanted to continue the marriage, he didn't...HIS LOSS; not yours. You see him leaving you as you having failed; I don't...it was an opportunity to really find yourself.
Now's the time to leave the past behind; as long as you stay mired in the past; there is no future...that's also the only way you can heal and march right on with your life.
It's not that you forget that he was ever there; but you place that memory in its place..the past.
Being successful is not about the money you made, the marriage you saved, etc. it's about who you are, and what you've become..and how many lives you've touched.
Much love goes out to you, Viki...it was great seeing you again.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
