Allen A, He usually leaves as soon as I get there anyway.
I can pretty much guarantee you he won't leave right away this time... The shoe is now on the other foot... he wants information.. someone's keeping a secret from him and he's PO'd about it... he will harass anyone he can to find out what's going on and who is at the root of it...
This is the part where the affair goes in the reverse... instead of you going to them, now they are going to YOU... and they won't let up...
I suspect the OWH knows by now too... I can't imagine your H looks too good of a citizen right now hanging out in secret for hours on end with this man's wife... no one is going to give him much credit...
If YOU now offer a more pleasant alternative to that drama he very likley will pursue it...
BUT its not likley to happen yet... he will wrestle with these consequences for a while in denial.. doing as much damage control as he can to put fires out...
Hanging around in private with anotehr man's wife is NOT an adult thing to be doing... and he KNOWS that...
I would even toss that one at him...
"I really don't know if I want our children exposed to a man who hangs out in private with another man's wife...particularly when his own family needs him and his marrige is in serious trouble... I don't like exposing these children to that influence"
"It's our responsability to provide a SAFE DRAMA FREE home for these children... and you aren't doing that right now... But I can..."
