Too Late For Us?

[mrbt]

I am interested in opinions on the following . . .

The problems between my wife and I began with an emotional affair that started in May of 2009 and ended in late June (or so I am told). From that point on I have been told that the EA has nothing to do with my wife's desire to end our marriage. Now its all about "I care about you but have no feelings for you" ( I don't actual even get the "I Love You Part of ILYBNILWY).

How important is it to get at the truth? I suspect that the EA may still be going on but I have no way of knowing for sure. If I ask she will deny it - If a press the issue it turns into a fight and a relationship talk. The rules say no snooping, don't discuss the relationship.

So, does it matter? Do I need to know? Sometimes I feel like there is more to the story than I am being told. I feel that she would not be so determined otherwise.

Any thoughts?