So the 'silver lining' on the dark cloud is that she added more info about the respect issue.

W said that I disrespect her by complaining/criticising 'who' she is. Example...today she wanted to go to a specialty store an hour away. She can't drive still, so she wanted me to drive her but I said I couldn't today. I suggested she goes tomorrow by bus when the kids were in school. She won't - afraid the school kids would get out and she couldn't make it back (by bus, it would be 2-2.5 hrs, plus shopping time. So in an 8 hour school day, she won't make it back... I'm SURE an eyeroll or something came out, but I didn't say anything. She decides to go herself today EVEN THOUGH SHE DOESN'T HAVE THE ADDRESS OR KNOW IF THEY'RE OPEN ON A HOLIDAY.

So I suggest calling to see if they're open. She can't figure out the number, so I found it for her. She calls while I pull out an online map. She asks the person on the phone for the address even though I've showed her I had the address before she even called. The address she gets was wrong. So thus my map is wrong. Her solution? She got angry with me and told me I was wrong. I explained that the street she wants is only in the SW of the city, not the NE. So what does she do, she tells ME I have to call them to get the correct address. I said if she thinks I'm wrong, she could call herself and check, but I've driven her there and I know where it was - it wasn't in the NE. I said that I hope when she comes back from the address that could never exist she understands if I laugh at her for being stupid about it.

Well, she is now on her way by bus to an NAMED street address that could not exist. So I insulted her. My mistake. Not helpful.

This is what I have a real problem resepcting. Not knowing is fine. Mistakes, great - we can learn! She wouldn't even take the other address I gave her just in case.

I was disrespectful. Wasn't she disrespectful to me, too, maybe first? Two wrongs don't make a right, but how am I supposed to make love and a viable marriage when we can't even get an address!