How is an online affair different?

[Kelly23]

H probably is in MLC but I am not going to let that be an excuse anymore.

I had been going to the counselor myself after I found out about PA, later invited H along. When he did not want to go one afternoon he said the only reason he had been going was because if he said no then I would have kicked him out.

Affair was discussed in C but H continues to try to avoid it. In his words, he said he was sorry already.

H left his phone sitting out in the open and I logged on to check his texts and calls. We agreed at counseling that he would not talk to the OW at work and if he did, he would come straight home and tell me. The A was in Dec and I cannot remember when but a few months later I asked him if he had talked to her (had a vibe) He said that he had. So there was another lie to me. H will say whatever he thinks he needs to so he can avoid conflict and face up to his behavior. It is like I have 3 teenagers instead of 2.