I feel for you, Hmama! Sometimes, we have to do what needs to be done, even if it means less time with our children. Here's a hypothetical for you --- what if your XH had died, and left you with nothing and let's pretend you won't have family support either and you are just as alone as you are now. What would you do then?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim