still reeling from discovery

[Kelly23]

Are you going to warn H about the separation or just have the papers delivered to him? If you think you might reconcile one day, I would tell H that you know about his past sexual behavior and if he gets help and faces his addiction, then you can talk about getting back together. Otherwise, you will be filing for D soon.
Do you worry about your children's safety when they are with him?

For my H, he is home but we live like roommamtes. I am waiting until my youngest graduates. I honestly do think H is not seeing anyone but it is too little too late. I have decided that I will not live in fear of the next OW. I can take care of myself and the kids financially once they are out of high school. H has already made plans to move to NY when we divorce. It is very lonely and at times I want to boot him out now but I will suffer to make sure the kids have both parents at least until they are on the way to college. I am too busy with them now anyway to be able to date.