He actually is, but he's been doing management the last 10 years, mostly supervising trial attorneys, not so much himself.
My L forwarded me an email from X's L today. He said he doesn't plan to rehash anything from the prior hearing (maybe b/c it was apparent his client is a total a$$????) Just wants to "present about my new job" and how it should impact alimony, child support, and PARENTING TIME!!! WTH??? In 2010, can my getting a full-time job, mostly b/c of X running up massive debt and with X pushing hard & heavy for that, I could lose time with my kids b/c of that for a reason? Is that legit??????
I don't know. I still have primary custody of the kids and I work full time. My ex sees the boys just those 2-3 hours on Tuesdays(because he never keeps them the full time) and then has the girls over every other weekend(because the boys refuse to go and S17 is working weekends anyhow).
I don't get it. He really doesn't spend quality time with them when he has them so I don't know what to say. I wish I had a good answer for you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
It's all about the $$$ for him imo. I will be ok (I think) if it doesn't work out well, but just trying to do the best I can for the kids. I will be warrior woman again in court next week.
Guess it doesn't matter what day it is--will be good to have it over with.
Work seems fine. My supervisor returned from leave from a serious car accident she had (was out the past 6 weeks or so). She said she's heard good things about the 3 of us (in my group) so guess things are going ok. I've made some great friends if nothing else.
X sent an email to D Friday asking her if she was going to be at the fun run she said she wanted to do with him. I just emailed back to him that she was still coughing and taking antibiotics for her sinus infection. Thought it would be better to do on a weekend when she is healthier.
Hoping if the judge gives him every other weekend and one night a week, that then he can just take her to the fun runs any Saturday that is his. An easy way to solve that.
Hope everyone's having a good weekend. I'm just keeping busy. Will go to church tomorrow. My S16 is doing the 30-hour famine at our church; X agreed to it which I am glad for; I told S16 that was nice of him to do on "his" weekend (although I would have done the same thing if it had been "mine"). Did I share a funny thing? I signed up for $1 each hour, and D9 insisted she wanted to sign up so she signed up for 10 cents an hour--D9 tells me X signed up for $1.10--had to one-up me. I think that funny!!!
Weird day today. Went to church as usual. The highlight was when I said goodbye to S16 at the church and said see you wed. night, and he said I'm looking forward to it and smiled at me. Only someone with an autistic child could maybe appreciate that?
X showed up to pick up S and sat all the way in the back on a window ledge. Not at any of the available tables & chairs. I was sitting next to the pastor, and felt bad he wasn't eating anything; so asked maybe I should ask him if he wanted something to eat, and my Pastor said not my problem. Pastor's wife then asked S to ask X if he wanted any food, but he said no apparently. Everyone at church shunned X like a leper. This is the sweetest group of people; they are so friendly to everyone it is so apparent, although maybe not to X.
The pastor did ask S16's confirmation teacher to ask X if he had any questions about the class. (He said he really wanted to check into it in an email to me a week or 2 ago). She asked him, and I heard him say no. He talks tough to me, but really I think he's kind of wimpy with everyone else in the world. He left asap. Someone there was telling me she thought he was embarrassed.
Plan to exercise tonight (although I went to the mall and walked around does that count?). Clean house, and maybe read a little.
I was asked to work on the stage crew of the next play probably about April. I agreed, so hopefully won't be too exhausting plus work, but I love my theatre friends and a lot of them will be working or in the play so should be fun. Also need to resolve to go to the gym more frequently if possible. Need to get into good shape for dating.....
I have refrained from exposing xW's dirty laundry (adultery) before our church. I tried to act with discretion but it's come back to bite me in the tail -- xW has shown no discretion in inviting her OP to our church and to act like she's clean as the snows that fell on Saturday.
I now wish my church community had the knowledge and the nerve to confront such people. I suppose if they had known something they might have acted as Paul had advised, to confront sinners with the Truth and with love.
Ok, lawyers are scum! My L showed up 2 minutes before the hearing, and said if my brother doesn't pay her more (he's paid her $5000 and X paid her $2500), she's going to turn in a crappy closing argument, which apparently is what the judge is going to use to decide the case. I asked her then to dismiss herself off the case, and she said she would then after this hearing if my brother doesn't pay her.
X in telling all the details about what a wonderful, involved father he is said he attended D10's 504 meeting, which guess what, he never told me about. I said that kind of thing is what makes me really concerned about his parenting (among others).
They said at the hearing we were divorced at the Dec. 7th hearing, although nothing was signed, and referred to me as the former wife, so I guess I've been divorced over 2 months and didn't know it!!!!
Glad not to be married to that scumbag anymore. Hoping I never have to deal with lawyers again!!!!!
The only comments the judge made is that he thinks a lot of our communication problems are b/c we both referred to the kids as "my son" or my daughter rather than our son and our daughter....Right....that'll solve everything!
So you have been free and he is still a jerk to you! I didn't expect him to change. Go get the car taken care of and get rid of your awful L. I think you need I am a divorced woman party. Call me later if you want. I am home.
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
He talks tough to me, but really I think he's kind of wimpy with everyone else in the world. He left asap. Someone there was telling me she thought he was embarrassed.