Since Friday evening I have spent virtually the whole weekend in the company of XH............. Our D14 had an appendicitis and had to have an operation. It turns out it was a pretty nasty appendix and they only just caught it in time. She is still in hospital as she had a bit of a relapse this morning but hopefully if she is better tomorrow she can come home.
At first X barely managed any conversation but over time he has become more open to it. Each time I've gone I have stayed for the day but after Saturday when she had the op he has come and gone. Yesterday he insisted that OW and MIL be allowed to visit. To make it easier on D14 I made myself scarce whilst they were there. OW (who was 29 yesterday) came in looking like she had just stepped out of Vogue magazine. I was jealous at first but then realised she needed to do that to get past the awkwardness of having to be in the smae room as me. The nurses saw straight through both X and OW and thought it slightly comical. I put my foot down today and said only me and X (and S17 if he wanted) could visit. Every tme X arrives he alludes to the fact taht I should leave. I haven't done. She is my child and I will stay with her as longa s I like. I can ahppily sit and read a magazine while D14 is sleeping but he clearly finds the silence difficult b/c that when he gets up and leaves. Of course he does now have to share his time between two families. I am so glad I'm not in that position.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
