Not yet. I'm not there yet, but I think it's coming.
I haven't done anything about the phone/internet, because I was trying to show that I trusted her enough to let her have them. Clearly, she doesn't see it that way.
Oh yes. Always good to let the pyromaniac keep their matches and their kerosene, to show them that we "trust" them. And if we take the crack away from the crack addict, that is only "controlling behavior," don'tchaknow.
