W is coming over tonight- She's leaving town for a horse show tomorrow for the remainder of the week. She wanted to see the dogs and our home is much closer to the barn than where she's currently staying.
I want so badly to relapse in my behavior and confront her on the potential of her using and effects of OM on the M.
W is at the house asking me why there's a picture of one of my ex's from college out- I had gone through a box and took out pictures that I dn't want to lose...I cannot understand how she can bring that up to me. Is it spew? Does she care?
She texts me that she is depressed, that her life is a f^&k show.
I don't understand any of this- I don't understand how she can go from one extreme to the other...
I know she needs to experience loss and I really want to give her that feeling.
I don't understand any of this- I don't understand how she can go from one extreme to the other...
It's not that hard to understand. Take the brain-addled addiction of multiple affairs, throw in the drug use, and add a good dose of guilt and entitlement, and you've got quite a potent mixture!
YES, it's just spew.
She needs help. Probably beyond what we can offer here.
Cutter- thank you for the link- I have thought about BPD many times- it was actually brought to my attention by someone at work. That link has the breakdown I've been looking for also it's helped in dispelling some common myths that have thrown me off by looking past PBD possibilities.
Unfortunately, I also fall into the Nice Guy category- so this union is something that has been in the works.
maynard...if you really think it might be BPD check out the book "walking on eggshells". skim through it before you buy that way you can tell if it accurately fits your W. if it does, it's a pretty good read and worth buying.
I'm almost positive without a professional diagnosis that that is what my ex has. she would go from happy/pleasant to full rage in less than 60 seconds and then back again.
thanks nsw- the prob w/ W is that she doesn't really get angry, but rather shuts down completely- literal silent treatment- I'd say more uncomfortable than anger!
