Yeah, I struggle with that too. Divorce is a war. How do you go to war with someone and simultaneously try to demonstrate a loving attitude? In my situation, the legal negotiations have destroyed nearly all the good will I've built up over the last year. She's suspicious of ulterior motives in nearly every interaction we have, and I admit, I'm suspicious too.
I could've written this myself. The legal system is so adversarial that it creates situations where any good will present on either side is destroyed.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
