Think my wife is having an MLC, looking for help

[TrentC]

My wife is not willing to see an MC right now; I asked her if I should schedule another appointment with the MC and she said she didn't see the point while she was still trying to figure out if this is what she wanted.

I think the post sessions and Retro homework will be the best that I get right now.

My current plan is to work on what I should have been doing all along; detaching and GALing. The detachment is coming along pretty well, actually.

Part of the struggle for me right now with asking for a transparency plan is trying to break myself of some of the codependent behaviors that have observed. (The MC remarked that we both seem "codependent as hell"!) How to balance setting boundaries with controlling behavior is something I will discuss with my IC, and with an MC if she wants to recommit to working on things with me.

As for me getting hurt, the discovery of the continued EA was about the worst thing I have ever experienced. After the remorse she expressed and the confusion she described, if she wants to continue the EA, she will. She had already created one fake email account, and I'm sure she can create more.