So for an update. I delivered about 2 dozen tulips to my W's house and a single red rose and a card that said "Appreciating you on this day". It was signed by me and my girls. Tulips were red and pink and I arranged them on the corner of the kitchen table side by side with the single rose in from of both and the card in front of the rose.
I wasn't sure what kind of reaction it might bring. The roses from OM/counterfeit were in the center of the table so that is why I put mine on the corner of the table.
I didn't hear anything last night. This morning when I got the kids in the car to take them to school my W called. I thought that was odd at that hour so I answered. She said that she loved the tulips and the card and that tulips have always been her favorite flowers. She said thank you and wanted to call me last night to thank me but she didn't get home til midnight and thought it might be to late. I said you are welcomed and that I had remembered that tulips were always your favorite. She said between those and the other flowers she got she got a total of about 50. She apparently counted each one. She told me to tell the girls she loves them and I said I will and to have a good day and we got off the phone.
Not quite the reaction I had expected from her and especially a call first thing this morning.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
50? Wow! Who else besides you and OM gave her flowers?
Glad she thought they were from the girls. I would have a hard time giving flowers if OM or OMen were also giving her flowers. Just doesn't seem right.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
50? Wow! Who else besides you and OM gave her flowers?
I'm not sure if she got any others. Mine and his may have added up to 50. But I don't know.
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I think you missed the caution light and walked right in....
SM, you are going to have to do a little bit better at filling me in here with this statement.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
If you meant because OM/counterfeit's roses were on the table, I might have treaded there without caution. But it obviously touched W enough to want to call and thank me for them. She didn't lash out at me. She seemed genuinely grateful and happy when we spoke.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I am glad you got a job. I am sure the relief is a very good feeling to have!
It seems to me you have reached a point where you will be content keeping things how they are with your W as long as no divorce is filed. If you are able to erase any and all expectations and avoid going in the slump you stayed in for a very long time then do what is best for you.
Like ALL of us need to keep doing, my hope for you is you are able to work on some of your personal issues either way. DB is not for everybody.
My expectations were that she would probably be angry about them. So it was a surprise that she loved them.
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I am glad you got a job. I am sure the relief is a very good feeling to have!
It seems to me you have reached a point where you will be content keeping things how they are with your W as long as no divorce is filed. If you are able to erase any and all expectations and avoid going in the slump you stayed in for a very long time then do what is best for you.
Like ALL of us need to keep doing, my hope for you is you are able to work on some of your personal issues either way. DB is not for everybody.
Good luck at your new job! Take care!
Thanks CG. I appreciate it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
