I don't know if there's something wrong with hope. False hope is a problem.
An explanation before might suffice. Little kids don't understand why daddy's away anyhow - they don't understand intimate relationships, just love.
Spending time regularily seems odd. But for the first few years, it might soften the blow to the little kids.
All the assumptions we have in N.America about divorce have led us to find kids are almost always hurt in a divorce. Myself, I think D is an option for those who need it, allowed by God. As such, I think there must be a good way to D without hurting the kids forever...maybe we just haven't found it.
Now, I'm here, so obviously I think D is a last resort. In our faith, divorce is the "most hated thing made permissible by God"
