Puppy, My twins picked the flowers. There was one vase left with a dozen roses in it and that's what they picked. I suggested something else and they said you get roses for valentines day. I did not buy a card nor did I sign the card on the flowers. I gave each child a couple of the roses and they snuck up on Mom with them and yelled "happy valentines day" I didn't have anything to give her. When I came around the corner from where I was watching, I told her happy valentines day and, with my arms around the kids said this was my gift to her. BTW, no card or anything from her and I am perfectly OK with that. I can see how my mindset is changing but am still learning and don't want to screw things up.
Sandi, To be honest, sometimes I don't understand what I'm supposed to do. I get the theory, but some of the 180's for me would be to instigate more with her. After confronting her about my suspicions a year ago, I pretty much stopped being the one to instigate ML because of the whole sitch. I know sex solves nothing but I sure do miss it! I know, wait until the R improves, concentrate on myself and other things first. It is a constant struggle to know what to do and when to do it. Thanks again to you and PDT for your input, it's like getting free coaching! I wish I had both of your personal #'s but then you wouldn't have time to help anyone else!
