Yeah but Nik that is part of the whole point. If he feels you are readily accessible, he will take advantage. Trust me, he may turn to the OW for a while, but eventually the "glamour" will wear off. It is more a question of if you want to hold out.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
If that is the case, you are better off w/out him. You know that. As much as it hurts, there is a man out there who will treat you much better.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Yeah today I'm pretty much just angry....I hate you type mode. Don't want to have to see and or talk to him. But we have our son. I'd prefer if I didn't have to at all.
Yeah that is where it is different for me. Since I don't have kids, there is no reason why I need to talk to the SG.
Make sure you feel the anger, though. In the process of healing, I read that women tend to suppress that emotion, rather taking on the "guilt complex." You have every right to be angry.
(((Hugs)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Yeah I'm angry today alright! Feel like telling him you are the biggest mistake I ever made, wish I never met you. Only thing good I got from you was my son. Pretty obvious I'm p*ssed!
I can tell! But that is okay. You won't be angry forever. I have found, though, the anger can be clarifying. It helps with healing. However, it also shows you still care for your H. And you have to accept that fact too.
See, the only time that you won't have feelings for your H is when you feel apathy. Now, that may never come, but eventually I find it is better to end on a note of love rather than hate. And yes, there is a thin line between love and hate.
I don't know that I, personally, will ever feel apathy, but I can tell you I spent a glorious weekend NOT thinking about the SG. Being around friends and family helps. GALing is a wonderful thing.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I love that song "Thin Line Between Love and Hate" it'd be nice to end things that way, he keeps saying we need to get along better, be civil....well here's a thought stop CHEATING!!!!!! Sure would make it easier. But I need to work through my emotions. I can't change what's been done, I can't control him, if he chooses to make those decisions he and he alone has to be responsible for his decisions and actions. I just don't want my son to see a hate relationship or one that is unhealthy or negative. So that's what I'm going to try and work on now.
Great to hear your weekend was great and not full of thoughts of him. Afterall.........you deserve it!
Thank you. You can only get to that point when you are ready. He may want to be civil, but he is not the one who has been betrayed. Right now, it's not about how he feels, or what he wants. It's about you being able to deal with the fact that his actions have hurt you. Now, this does not mean you need to cuss him out every time you talk to him, (although I had a great deal of fun messing with the SG when I was doing it). But in the long run I also regretted some of it, and feel much better just ignoring him now. You will have to make the decision on how you handle it.
Personally, I think just telling him you are angry will suffice, and you need to feel that way until you don't feel that way anymore. Civil? Sure. Nice. Hell no. There is a difference. If you want to be nice, be nice. If not, then keep it short, impersonal. Just as you don't know about his personal life, he has no reason to know about yours.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
