Is your husband back home? When he says he's done with OW, what kind of proof has he given? I've read these boards a lot, and from what I can see the way the men approach things is more successful because they are very focused with their plan, and they carry it out. We women tend to get sidetracked, either by our emotions, or by our attempts to look at all sides.
I wish I'd been a lot tougher ten years ago -- even counselling then with MWD's people said much the same.
