I would not push her to do the homework. Remember, it was a little over a week ago that you found that she lied where she was going and that she flew to Colorado to be with OM. And I think she deliberately lied about her health conditions to get you to give up the M easier. Retro was a start, but you both need time.
During the coming months, you need to work on yourself. Become the better man. I believe you are aware of your codependence and are seeing a C for that. I really recommend you check out those books (Nuts, Inner Lives of Women) that I mentioned.
Are you still looking around for another job near where you live?
