Thanks. I feel like crap, but I'm trying to stick to my guns.
I have tried to keep my problems with her and reasoning consistent, in hopes that I might break through some of the WAW fog, but so far, she just doesn't think she has a problem.
As far as I can tell, in her mind, today was all about me wanting to control her friendships and wanting her to constantly check in with me.
Before the Bomb, I had full access to her life, and it didn't matter. I didn't look over her shoulder or read her emails, because I didn't think I needed to. Once I knew I had something to worry about, she cut off access so that even if her friendships were innocent, I couldn't see that.
I have tried to explain to her that before the OM and the Bomb, she had unconditional love and trust, but she broke it by sneaking around. She still has unconditional love from me, but I can't rebuild the trust without some serious help from her.