yes it is kind of weird how with all the horrible feelings there is also a freeing feeling. I really prayed hard about standing for the marriage got involved in a marriage reconcilation group....studied the Bible so hard on what it says about marriage, divorve and remarriage. I came to a place of understanding that even the most educated Bible scholars disagree about the remarriage and if it is ok to remarry and I dont mean for them the adultrey people thats pretty crustal clear...I mean of course they can be forgiven but I am clear you cant have adultrey and leave you wife with no repentance or sorrow or even to see if you can reconcile the marriage for me when he told me there was a problem she was already in the picture....and it surprised me that he coudlnt get back.....I understand so much more now about childhood issues..( mine had major ones and then our own tragedy...but I still believed...but yes it is freeing..I can tell you there is nothing in me that wants a man that has left his family and married the OW and trys to appear to everyone like he is an upstanding man.....there is no bigger turn off to me marring your mistress in I think a CHURCH EVEN and I think she attends regularly ( that is so hard for me to put my head around ---so many fakes out there )....I leave it with the Lord and will go forward loving my boys...what a journey but agree this brings closure..pretty swiftly actually after a long long road..... so I think I am good he isnt who I thought he was or who he used to be at least....I lost so much, he played me like a fiddle, financially and emotionally, some life lessons are hard..
