!Help! Need Advice and encouragement!

[stark648]

Thanks so much! I was soooo glad to see this reply this morning!!!!
I have a new bank account, but I left her $180 in the old one for Doctors--she has heart, therapist, psychiatrist, etc. She has only used 25 for one doctor, so I have not closed it. I cut off her credit card, and told her politely afterwards that OM would have to finance her.(I did these things a week or so ago)She is already stressed about the financial end of it, but she still keeps spending money (from her account and OM) on restaurants, etc. for kids and her, etc. I am paying her car insurance--her truck is in my name. Once I get that title changed, she can pay her own. It's really covering me, right now. (Truck is fully paid for.)

I think she is trying to keep her relationship with God, but, of course, that is not working for her---and she won't go to AA meetings or church, etc. Like you say, He may get her to change in the end. There are LOTS of folks praying for her and us.
She vehemently defends her therapist, and I can't bring that back up--but I agree with you. Her mom and the OM are giving her bad advice, also, I'm sure. She is deathly afraid of becoming like her mom, (no real job, etc.), however, her choices mirror her mom's. I pointed that out much earlier, but don't mention it now.
I was thinking of calling OM's wife that has moved out-just to compare notes, what do you think?
I have bought myself some more clothes, cologne, etc.

What do you think about my dating? Would that work to the good or bad? It may help my self-esteem right now. Or, she may feel okay about her relationship if I do. My daughters are okay with it as long as the date doesn't drink and we don't "do stuff" (sexual, ha ha). I have really good relationships with them.
I really value your advice--thank you!!!