feel like giving up - talk to me!

[mindfull]

Luv,

I have to tell you how much I agree w/ST. After our conversation on Friday night, and knowing what was going on there, real time, you're simply reacting to him when he's "naughty". You're not maturely guiding him into a better place... Remember, YOU are the one who is, supposedly, not in this WAS or OW/OM fog. Use the clarity you should have to guide this family right now.

A couple of things stick out...

-- Fri you were TICKED that he was so late on a Friday. What did you DO about it, rather than (probably) b*tch to him about it?

-- Sat night at the party, if he was rude or made a snarky comment, what did you DO about it, rather than (probably) b*tch to him about it?

-- Sun am, when friend was there, and H showed interest in going to b-fast, what did you DO about it, other than b*tch about the fact that he showed interest?

-- Sun am, when you didn't receive a card, flowers, candy, baubles, what did you DO about it, other than b*tch about it here?


I think, AGAIN, it all comes down to, IF you're working on this, a combination of some boundary setting, FOLLOW-THRU, and creating a home he'd really want to be at! I can tell you, if I reacted the way you do w/my H, he would have been gone a LONG time ago... (Trust me, I'm not saying my way is better, as I'm stuck in a different way, but we DO co-exist well, and I can guaranTEE he considers his home a pleasant place to be, unless of course, he's a complete dumb*ass!).

Think of it this way... YOU HAVE to be in charge now...

OF YOU
OF LEADING YOUR FAMILY
OF BEING A GOOD EXAMPLE TO YOUR KIDS!!!

Just because you've "remained faithful" doesn't make you better or right. It just makes you less a potential common sin.

Hope that helps! LEAD w/the JOY I see when we're goofing off and having fun! PLEASE

HUGS MY FRIEND!!! (And, quit yer b*tchin'! LoL)