When I think about her September date, I suspect that it is not confusion per se as much as it is her preparing herself to be able to pay the bills - but who knows.
My W gave me 6 months to come up with a "plan". I think that this is their way of putting off having to deal with anything. My IC told me not to worry about the date. That time has come and passed and we are still not D or separated. Your W has much internal confusion going on. She is hurting more than you. Whether you can see it or not.
Take the focus off of her. She will make her own journey. You have to worry about "eric"
I don't think the DR book is going to answer this question but you still need to read it. It does not truly matter whether she is a WAS or a MLC you still have to do the same things one way or the other.
