T2,

It really sounds like she is testing you.
I can outlast you.
You will get over it.
Things will go back to the way they were where I am comfortable.

Stand up for yourself. You are on a journey of self-growth.
Wife can invest and climb on board or be left behind. Her choice. You win either way.

SpinFree

Me 42
Her 38
D 8
S 10
S 14

Married 18 years, together 20