What should I do?

[ericmsant2]

All - I wanted to follow up with everyone on what transpired this weekend.

First off, I picked up the DR book and will begin reading it this week.

My in-laws came up this weekend and once again told me wife that she should give this marraige another chance. She reaffirmed that she has made her descion. One thing to note - she has yet to act on it; however, I did tell my in-laws to stop pushing her. Everytime they said this to her it allows her to reaffirm her stance, which does not help me.

In terms of our R convo...As I communicated earlier, I changed the focus on our conversation to...

1) I told her that I was going back to school - Note I did not ask her but told her.

2) I explained to her that I understood that she wanted to pay down the debt and that by me going to school it would increase the debt long terms since my company will reimurse me.

3) I asked her if she is able to take days off from her new job. She said she is not.

4) We spoke about start putting money away again for our oldest college fund. She agreed.

5) We agreed not to do any repairs to the house.

6) I did ask what made her put her ring back on and she said it was her job. She needed to keep the men away from her. The trust is that she told my MIL that they called her into the office (she just started at the company about 2 months ago) to tell her that rumors were spreading about her and a supervisor. According to my therapist she told her mother this partly due to guilt and because she knwo that the superviors phone calls would be on the phone bill. This is the new A that I mentioned a few days ago.

Interesting enough she did not wear the ring today so I am not sure how to take this.

I've read some or Bwrols post and they are quite inspirational.

I will try and detach as best as I can and continue with the GAL. I did get the tattoo this weekend by the way and W did ask when I got it. Once again she seems somewhat pleasent but still very very distant. It will interesting to read the DR book to see if I should treat her more as a WAS then someone with MLC. I think the approaches are very different.

When I think about her September date, I suspect that it is not confusion per se as much as it is her preparing herself to be able to pay the bills - but who knows. If it about her just positioning herself then maybe she is a WAS. Any thoughts anyone? I have read the MLC resources and still to this day struggle with if she is truly a MLC or a WAS. Hopefully the DR book will help me answer that question.