My advice is go back to the links that I gave you. The Detach link specifically. This is the first step of what you have to do.
You must get away from the fight. Take a deep breath and calm yourself down. After you are more calm then you must start looking for GAL activities. The focus must come off your H and onto YOU.
You are responsible for worrying about You. You can only control yourself. You can not control your husband and he cannot control you.
There is a post somewhere here about being in quicksand, maybe someone else can find it for you I can't locate it right now. The general idea behind it is that you can't jump into the quicksand and save the person that is sinking. You need sticks and stones(GAL and 180's) to help him and yourself.
