i apologize if i missed this info. it was like a light bulb went off for me last...
in what stage or is it through out that they act out as children? as in he is and has been acting as a school age boy for some time...things that his mother had done and tries to compare her to me and our older daughter to him...
why? there is no comparison but he has said that a normal person would be in denial, and he is thankful that he sees it...aaaarrrrrrggggggggggg!
input appreciated on this!
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
There is no specific stage you will see the children in. They come and go as they please. Actually, I believe a lot of it is actually them working through an issue (or not but having the opportunity at least). The more issues that they have to face, the harder they run from facing them, the more bouncing between stages and “ages” you will see.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Lost, The "children" come out to play when they are dealing w/an issue. The children actually go back to where they were stunted emotionally many years ago.
Cat has given you an excellent response.
You are going to see a lot of things go on w/your h. That's why it's important to read the MLC Resources and the Archives. The more knowledge you have, the better you will understand what you are dealing with.
Lost, Your h is bouncing around from anger, replay, depression and withdrawal. They love to bounce around. The best thing you can do is try to stop looking for what stage he's in. The bottom line is you and your family. You and your family are the stable, rational ones here. Your h is all over the globe.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
i truly mean a BIG thank you!i am by nature a fixer, like i have said b4. i realize i cant fix him, but there is nothing inhibiting on trying to understand as much as i can...maybe it gives me the feeling of having some type of control...even if it is only realizing how to react to all that is going on...
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
