my goal is making my M work. i think in order to get there, i'm going to have to do a LOT of ignoring my mother's advice. in her eyes, people who love each other and are committed to their marriages do NOT move out into separate apartments, or say that they are unsure that they want to be married.
TTA - My mother and sister feel the exact same way. For a long time I never sought the advice of my family, only a very close friend. But when it got so bad, I disclosed my issues in my marriage to my Mother in November 2009. My H left on Christmas Eve 2009. My mother subscribes to the same belief as your mother. It is hard when my mother tells me.. "he is not coming back and I should just forget about things getting better because he would not have left if he REALLY loved you". She believes i have false hope and I tell you, I have succumbed at times to her words. Don't fall into that trap - keep your eyes on your goals (not our mother's).
I am trying to keep the faith. You continue to do the same, I am pulling for you.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
