He said he is done!!

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CAUGHT H IN ANOTHER LIE. BIG SHOCK. He had told me that he had not spoke to OW for a while. Found that is big LIE! He has his mother fooled - just keeps lieing. The urge to call this OW is overwhelming. I have not contacted her H - family has told me this is wrong thing to do - that it will only distroy another family. My family structure has been distoyed.

How do I make H see that I do not want to end our M?

How do I make him see that this relationship with this OW is distroying his relationship with his children - with his family and friends. My D13 (14 today!!) told me yesterday that she has not talked to her dad since TUESDAY last week!! this keeps chipping away at my family.

I have a message typed and ready to go to the OW - basically telling her that I do have all the information and will use if needed. Maybe she did not believe what I have on her. Figured I would even put in the message all the information I do have. Maybe that will make her back off.

HELP - what do I do - do I send her the message? Do I call her and contront on the phone? I do not know if she has left her H - if she has then sending this message or calling her won't do a dang bit of good (will it?).