I don't see a pity party here .... only a woman who consistently puts herself and her own valid needs for emotional support or at least a reliable sounding board well behind everyone's else's needs for ... anything.

If you down-deep believe that the truth of your life is an imposition on the lives of your loved ones, that is a matter to explore in your IC, IMHO.

"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes.
Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert