Thank you for kicking my ass. He has been sending both messages ones of "open marriage" because we are separated and also "plans for the future". Confused, Scared, Cake and eat it too - All of the above!!
The open marriage being seeing if he *wants* to be with yet still and plans for the future. I mean what the hell.
Well anyway, I have enough information all around.
Will keep you posted. This should get interesting fast.
As far as codependent goes I have no idea. I've coddled him for sure. I mean this has been an issue for a long time but I have kept my mouth shut ala DB in order to get him in my court a bit. - Again, if my goal is saving my marriage which it is. It is only in the past couple of weeks that I have seen the cracks forming in their relationship. Maybe that is why my brain is giving me the go ahead - in addition to the fact that there is no way in hell I am going to invest any more emotionally in him while he sees another woman.
Anyway, its nice to be healthy. Believe me, this stuff all sucks but it is a cakewalk compared to what I've already been through. I like being on this side of the dirt and being able to see my son grow up God willing.
