It is hard for me to believe that her being upset with me for moving back
I know.
Believe it anyway. Much of what you will learn through this journey will be counterintuitive.
Don't feel bad about doing it. Your W very cleverly manipulated you into moving out so that she could carry on an affair unencumbered and, most probably, bang the OM in your home. You discovered the affair after the fact, exactly as she calculated.
Keep all of the documentation relating to her infidelity for the courts - if it ever has to come to that.
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None of them thought it was a good idea
Did you ask why they didn't think it was a good idea?
Ask, then go silent and listen. I would be surprised if you heard an answer that added up logically and made sense. My guess is you were told it's not a good a idea because it's not the "done thing".
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even if my only goal was to gain back respect.
How can anyone stand living without self respect?
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But move back in - I get it - especially since my self respect hinges on it. I am working on a plan to do this and I am also reading DR now.
Good.
Let us know how you're doing and where you're at Q9.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
