How (and who) to expose if OP is not married

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I haven't posted in a while but have been reading stitches. i have been GAL and staying distant but not as good as i should have. things have come to a head tonight. my husband walked out tonight and I don't even know why. We had agreed to separate but were doing so in the best possible way by still taking care of our son together and was just waiting for our lease to end to go our separate ways. But somehow things came to a head tonight.

past week: we were hit by a major snow storm so i was stuck in the house from tuesday until friday and therefore had to take care of son all day due to his daycare being closed. husband was gone all night during the snow storm because he said he had to drive for his job at night because the contractors do not drive during the snow. so basically i only saw husband during the day and for the most part he would leave at 6pm and not return until 8 or 9am the next morning. he would sleep, get up at 4pm and then do it all over again. lets say that by the end of the week i was exhausted taking care of a 9month old PLUS trying to work from home and finish a big presentation in between time.

Friday: went out with son shopping and when i got home in the evening my baby had a fever of 101 degrees and was acting VERY sluggish with bad diarrhea. i called the after hours doctor and called husband to tell him about son. husband didn't pick up so i texted "son has fever of 101. waiting on call back from doctor." the doctor called me back right after that and gave me directions on what to do and to take him in if conditions did not improve. My husband didn't contact me by calling or texting until 4 hours later. husband text "is son ok?...I am pissed!" I replied "son is sleep now." then husband went on to text that he was going to give me a break on sat. by watching son during the day and would be home at 11am to watch him. by this time i realize that OW (the one that husband has a child with) was in town. A lot of evidence let me know this including (1) a text message saying that she would come down on vday and (2) the disappearance of bra and underwear that i found hidden in our closet in husband's bag had all of a sudden been taken out along with some pajamas of their son (i assume to return to them) and (3) husband telling me that he would have to get a hotel for work this weekend.

Saturday: husband said he was going to pick up son at 11am instead of watch him at home. i told him that son couldn't go out because he still had a fever. husband promised that he would be here at 11 then to give me a break. husband NEVER shows up to watch son. he doesn't even call and the one time that i called him he didn't answer. I ended up taking son to emergency room which is why i called husband because my son still had a fever and bad diarrhea. husband ended up calling around 7pm and yelled at me for calling him twice and said i was worrying him for no reason. husband calmed down and then asked about son. i told him that son was still sick. husband then proceeded to ask more about son and that is when i told husband that i took him to emergency room. we ended that convo and then husband called back 2 hours later saying "i want to apologize for how i've been acting. i have been so selfish only thinking about myself." i told him "thinks for the apology but it is one thing to treat me like crap...i am a big girl and will get over it but its another thing for him to not be there for his son. then said that son is young and doesn't know at this point but in the future he better not ever make a promise to spend time with his son and not do it." Around 130am husband comes to the house to bring some formula and pedialyte for son. He walks in the bedroom where i am sleep and kneels near the bed and gives me a hug and tells me how sorry he is and that none of this is my fault. that i have been a good wife and that he has just made bad decisions. then husband sits in chair and starts to cry saying that he just feels like he has made of mess of his life and that he knows what is right but keeps doing wrong. that he feels like he has gone too deep and can't get out of it or turn around. i listened. husband kept crying...i reminded him of God's grace and forgiveness and of how Paul in the bible kept trying to do right but would do wrong. i told husband that the flesh is weak and that he can't overcome it without seeking God and opening his heart to the holy spirit. husband continued to express his dissappointment with everything and all the games he has played with me, OW, and anyone else. How these games that he has played to keep himself from getting hurt has just made things worst. blah, blah, blah, more about how sick he is of his the decisions he has made in his life adn how he can keep lying to everyone else but now he can't stand to look at himself in the mirror. husband left the house after this and went back to his "hotel for work."

Sunday: this is where i messed up! after listening to husband last night and not interrupting or saying anything (besides the words on God) when husband came in i told him that i thought about everything he said last night and that i was glad that he was starting to self reflect but i disagreed with the one point he made about marrying me because he felt he owed it to me. i reminded him that thosed feelings were real at the time and that i couldn't let him just discount the beginning and start of our marriage or our 10 years together. well, the reflective husband from the night before was gone and husband blew up and said that just because he tells me his feelings doesn't mean that i have to say anything. i told him that was very one sided and that he should put himself in my shoes sometimes. husband repsonded "i don't put myself in other people's shoes...i have enough problems being in my own." I left out the house after that since husband came to watch baby so that i could treat myself for vday. i saw a movie, shopped, and went out to eat. when i returned home husband or baby were not home. I was pissed becasue my husband had agreed not to take son out in the cold because he was still recovering. long story short, husband's OW was still in town so i guess he couldn't leave her and their son waiting. i ended up calling husband then OW but neither one of them answered. OW texted me wassup and by that time i had calmed down so i texted her back nevermind. husband came in the house and dropped son off and when i asked where did he take son he said don't worry about it...just out. then i said well son was still sick when i left and that husband was reaching his low by taking his son out sick because that is what HE wanted. (YES, mamabear was out...i DON'T play when it comes to the welfare of son.) but then husband got made told me he was packing his stuff tonight and leaving...then said nevermind, i will get my stuff 2morrow but i am gone. i told husband that he could stay and that i would leave but he stormed off. in between all this husband grabbed me and tried to push me and looked very angry. the thing about this whole mess is that husband never had intentions of staying here tonight but i guess i just made it easier for him to leave. before i left to go the movies and last night when he was pouring out his feelings he said that he thought about packing his stuff up and just leaving. today before i left he said it again so i said well do what you wanna do...

i tried to put all the details but this is getting to long.