When this first happened I spun like crazy. I was back and forth so much you'd have thought I was the MLCer. I know I confused the heck out of H. I truly thought I was going off the deep end.
As I got my bearings and began to learn more about what was happening with H, I pretty much went dark on him. If I did see him I acted 'as if' things were fine. Now, like I said I contact him if it's financial or kid related and he the same for me. When I see him now I always act positive and upbeat and it's not so much of an act. It does get easier.
I guess I'm wondering if I'll ever get the chance to validate any of his feelings. We did have R talks in the beginning of this, but those were projections from him and defending by me. Now we avoid R talks altogether, just like we did when we were together. An actual 180 would be to have a R talk, but that is a no-no. Am trying to follow the rules and keep the pressure off.
Thanks again. It really does help to have people to talk to that know exactly what I'm going through.
Tried the FB thing with new account and am having trouble. Will figure it out.
