This is a tough one on these texting things... let me think on it. I would hold off on them for at least three days... He was likley getting to enjoy them... so hold them away from him...
I will think on it.. pup may have something to say on them... it IS doing damage to teh affair for him to have a secret contact with you... I am HOPING she FINDS them... What do you think pup?
If MB thinks the OW is seeing the texts, I MIGHT be inclined to have her say something that might hasten the demise of the affair, but it doesn't seem like she's seeing them. I think she's better off remaining dark.
I REALLY like the "safety zone"/intermediary stuff, if you can arrange that. I agree -- "golden."
I have seen some success with betrayed spouses (particularly women) telling OW that they are still having sex with their husband. Cheating husbands usually tell their affair partners that they've STOPPED having sex with their wives, and it can drive a really strong wedge between them if you can either get your husband to ML to you and then tell her about it, or even if you just fake it like you have.
