You need to do what it takes to be a better you, not so you S will notice and come snivelling back, that's not what you want, or will accept.
Maybe talia would like to have the option to say 'no' or 'maybe' to him in the event of snivelling.
Self improvement and WAS noticing and rethinking may go hand in hand. I think most people came here to try to salvage their relationships, not just to be better people.
