I know he has been lying to me and not the man I married. Also found out that he has purchased a ring...not sure who this is for! He just did this a couple of days ago - 4 days after we had a really good talk too! I feel like I am going backwards today!
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
Another question - since the A is out in the open why does he feel he needs to lie about it ?
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
This weekend my parents will be in town so there will be no contact this weekend with H. My father is so angry right now... well you know daddy's little girl - how could he do this to his little girl. I am sure he will have issues with my decision to FIGHT for my M.
i know how this feels! i think my family feels like my H is not just separated from me, but from THEM as well. my sister says, how on EARTH could he NOT want to be with you since you are so amazing/smart/beautiful/all the other things your family members insist that you are. my mother wants to know how on earth i could even give him the time of day. my coach told me that as hard as it is, you also have to set boundaries with your FAMILY. i had to tell my mom, "mom, i love you and i so appreciate that you only want the best for me, but this is MY marriage and what i need from you right now is your support, and if you can't give it to me, that's fine, but i don't want to hear about what you think i SHOULD be doing."
but i'm a daddy's girl, too. and it kills me to see my dad hurting over this, too, but, if what i think is best for me is to fight for my marriage, i certainly can't control what my family thinks.
hope you have a good, stress-free weekend with your family. it helps if you tell them you need a mental break from talking about your situation!
Me30 H29 M2.5 T5 H moved out 1/23/2010 H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010 ...feeling hopeless
I plan on telling them just that. Thanks for giving me the words!. As I know this will be a topic - I am going to set a time limit and let them know no more talk of it after we are done. I want to enjoy the weekend - and the kids do to - the girls have not seen their grandparents since September and son not since March.
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
[quote=lostnotgone] I would have thought this wouldn't surprise you this much by now.
Puppy
Most likely because I want to believe him so badly that the lies are over.
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
great day with the parents today. Had a really good talk and they support my decision not to just throw in the towel. Also agreed that leaving the house would be a mistake. If nothing comes out of this with my H and I I have become even closer to my parents.
The only strange thing todays was not having H here. This is the first time he has not been here for a birthday dinner for one of our children. Kept the kids laughing all day to keep their mind (and mine) off that. They even had Grandma and Grandpa playing the Wii!
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
H called this morning - really early.. and called the house phone. He knows that the kids sleep late on weekends and he always calls their cells.
Wondering why H called the house phone and called so early. He asked how the weekend was going with my parents - seemed to want details. Asked him what he was doing - he was cleaning!! he hasn't had to clean a house in 20 years!
He offered details of what he was doing today (going to see his mom - at least I know he was not seeing OW). He asked what we had planned - I offered little details.
Good talk - kept it short - wished him a Happy Valentines Day and he also wished me one.
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
and it kills me to see my dad hurting over this, too, but, if what i think is best for me is to fight for my marriage, i certainly can't control what my family thinks.