How is an online affair different?

[MarkG]

It is damaging and it should be. It's saying that needs aren't being met, whether that's true or not that's what it says. I had a very short online A not long before my W and I married, and I found out 11 months into the M she wasn't over it. Between that she had even told me that she was over it. We only lasted less than a month after I was told this. Nearly everything my W had done to me was a result of her unresolved feelings about it. I would love to undo history, I'm sure we all would. When it happened my W was meeting my needs. I was approached by the OW and have no idea why I got involved, and within 3 days I had already stopped it, 1 day before she read my text messages. If he has stopped the A you should still try MC, and if not you need to tell him it is not acceptable to you and you will not stay in an open marriage. Good luck, hope that helps, but you need to take back some control & respect for yourself.