Going All In

[Kelly23]

Speaking as a wife whose H had 2 affairs, that would not make me trust him just like him promising to vow before God that he would be faithful did not make him trustwothy.
You are trying to find a quick solution so you do not have to deal with the long process of resolving your issues.

I am not trying to yell below, just not good at the quote thing so I am putting my reply in caps.

So, here's my plan...and I need honest opinions from all here. IF YOU ASK FOR HONEST OPINIONS, YOU GET THEM. WHAT YOUR LATER REPLY SHOWED WAS YOU DID NOT WANT HONEST ONES, YOU WANTS THOSE THAT AGREED WITH YOU.

If my potential WAW actually does say she's going to leave, I will propose the following to, in essence "call her bluff" by "going all in:" IF SHE IS ON THE VERGE OF LEAVING, THIS IS REALLY TOO LATE. WHY DON'T YOU DO IT NOW?

I will tell her that from this point forward, if she catches me doing anything in the line of cheating behavior, (i.e., secret communications, emotional, physical, etc.) and can actually prove that this/these thing/s are going on with hard evidence, then I will give her everything. My car, the house, my stuff, my musical instruments, my computers, my golf clubs, my EVERYTHING, AND have to pay her HALF of whatever I make for the rest of my life, leave and leave her alone only to have contact with out kids when absolutely necessary.
SO WHO DECIDES WHAT THE PROOF IS, YOU? DO YOU ALSO GET TO DEICEDE WHAT IS OR IS NOT HARD EVIDENCE. SO BASICALLY YOU STILL GET THE FINAL DECISION, NOT HER? DOES SHE NOT OWN ANYTHING? SHOULDN'T IT BE OUR CAR, OUR HOUSE, ETC?

We are all here to help others and honestly, from your posts I would describe you as a bully. You are trying to bully your wife into doing what you want by making her agree to something that you set up. The only thing that can build or rebuild trust is time and obsevation. What happened in the last 3 years that has caused her to distrust you?