Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[june72]

OTMT,
I am sorry, but I think you have it wrong here. Things in a marriage do not get better over a weekend. It takes time, lots of time with lots of backslides. DO NOT let the backslides get you down. It is NOT a linear journey.
As I said to you in one of my first posts- just b/c a marriage is crummy now does not mean that it will be so in the future. I had posted earlier about bonding activities and ways to learn to love her- review them if you wish.

As for her lack of hygiene and not caring for her self. This speaks volumes. Neglecting oneself is DEPRESSION. That or severe exhaustion with all the kids. So please really understand she has been truly suffering- either with fatigue or depression. Glad to hear that she will be getting IC- hopefully that will help. She also may have suffered from postpartum depression after each child. I believe it can last up to a year after childbirth. You are especially susceptible if you feel isolated like I believe she feels.

OTMT, I see you as a person that is feeling desperate and not knowing what to do. Totally understandable. I hope the Retroville will help greatly. I also...